There's work to be done.
There's just no ifs, ands, or buts about it. It has to begin with you. Within you. It can't be around you in order to be effective. We have to start small, or it could be another disappointment.
There's nothing wrong with small. I'm a paper ship in a stream, but there's nothing to stop me from becoming a yacht in the Pacific. Nothing. Start with 2 books. One is called Roaring Lambs by the late Robert Briner. The other is called Plan B by Pete Wilson. I would encourage any and all women to read Goodbye Insecurity, you've been a bad friend to us by Beth Moore. All 3 books have more than a common thread. Freedom, and the courage to embrace it.
So go do it already!